How to Stop Believing in UFOs

This post presupposes that:

  • You've been fascinated by UFOs since you were a kid.
  • As a teenager, you read all the UFO books in your small town's public library
  • ... and you became terrified of being abducted by aliens
  • ... and you paid $20 to get a library card at a large metropolitan library so you could read more UFO books
  • ... and you talked all about UFOs for your valedictorian speech at your high school graduation.
    • As an adult, you've written well over a dozen posts about UFOs on your blog.

    If you don't meet the above criteria, this post may not apply to you.

    To stop believing in UFOs, follow these steps:

    • Buy a copy of the book Mirage Men by Mark Pilkington, but don't read it because you sense it might poke holes in your UFO belief system. Instead, let it sit on your bookshelf for 13 years.
    • Meanwhile, discover a book called Cranioklepty by Colin Dickey in a cruise ship's library (see this post). Read it and love it. Start following the author on social media.
    • Get excited when Colin Dickey releases a new book, The Unidentified, all about UFOs and other paranormal topics. Read the book and discover the author is a huge skeptic of all things related to UFOs and spends much of the book debunking numerous claims. Be disappointed, even depressed about this for a while. And be angry at the author for being so stoopid.
    • Stumble across a cheap copy of a book called Escaping the Rabbit Hole: How to Debunk Conspiracy Theories Using Facts, Logic, and Respect by Mick West and read it. Learn that we all have our own personal demarcation line when it comes to deciding what constitutes believable and unbelievable conspiracies. Learn that sometimes it's a single piece of evidence that makes a person believe a conspiracy, and that providing alternative explanations for that evidence can help a person break free from their belief. Also, be very glad you never fell down the "9/11 was an inside job" rabbit hole, even though you may have peeked into it a few times.
    • 13 years after buying it, finally read Mark Pilkington's Mirage Men. Be completely astounded at the damning evidence that for years some U.S. military/intelligence agencies have been feeding fake information to the UFO community to promote belief in UFOs, and that at least one of the UFO researchers you've followed over the years has been duped by it. Be sad after reading the book because you, too, have been duped. Realize that your intuition was right, although the book didn't just poke holes in your belief system, it tore down load-bearing walls.
    • Find a YouTube video of a talk Mark Pilkington gave in 2011, shortly after releasing Mirage Men, and think long and hard about the part at the beginning, where he reads this quote:
      • "They are not material creatures, they are spiritual beings. They live in outer space, and when they feel hungry, they swoop down and kill innocent women and children. They eat the corpses, and then fly back to their spatial residences for a siesta in their bedrooms in space. It has been going on and on like this for years."
      • The quote is from a Pakistani villager, who is actually describing CIA drone strikes.
    • Discover Jack Brewer's blog, The UFO Trail. Get a copy of his book The Greys Have Been Framed as a birthday present. Read it and learn that:
      • Hypnosis, which has long been used to recover alien abduction memories, has been firmly established as an ineffective technique for memory retrieval. It is, however, very effective at creating false memories.
      • One of the most influential books you read as a teenager was written by a researcher who was not practicing sound research, but rather using questionable methods like hypnosis to seek confirmation of his pet theory.
      • In the 1950s, the CIA was out of control, performing many involuntary human experiments, and these "blatant violations of human rights continue to disturb and anger researchers well into this century."
      • It's possible that some claims of alien abduction, including some of the very first claims, may have nothing to do with aliens and everything to do with those CIA experiments.
    • Discover a new book called "The Reliability of UFO Witness Testimony" that contains 57 cross-disciplinary essays from academic researchers. Download a free PDF copy of it and learn that:
      • There are credibility issues with some of the more famous UFO cases. That includes the alien abduction of an Arizona logger (which was made into a terrifying movie you watched in high school) that has been exposed as a hoax.
      • Even competent, highly trained, intelligent people can misperceive a mundane event and become convinced they've seen a UFO.
      • Studies of criminal cases show that when witnesses are highly confident in their testimony ("I know what I saw!"), all it indicates is that they have constructed a coherent story in their mind, not necessarily that their story is true.
      • Claims of UFO sightings and encounters with aliens can serve a psychological purpose, such as self-esteem regulation (e.g., feeling special for being chosen). They can also help alleviate feelings of loneliness.
      • Similarly, alien abductions can serve psychologically as a metaphor for traumatic events the person can't face. The abduction scenario allows the trauma to surface in a "quasi-hallucinatory form".
      • The above points are just from the first half of the book. What else will you learn when you read the second half?
    • Realize that for years you've thought people who don't believe in UFOs are ignoring all the evidence that the phenomenon is real, and it turns out you are the one who's been ignoring evidence of hoaxes, deception, and shoddy research.
    • Be sad about all that you've learned, and write a blog post about it.

    Those are the steps that worked for me. Your experience may be different.

    18 responses
    You're valedictorian speech remain my all time favorite. And this post saddens me as I've always loved your fascination and belief in UFOs.
    Thanks, Joy. Just like the poster in the X-Files says: I want to believe. But I'm finding more and more that the things that got me hooked on the topic don't hold up under scrutiny.
    Fascinating post. It took me a couple of days to read (comprehend?) this. You have a long and interesting history with the subject. Here I was hoping the Congress's insistence on hearings on the subject would provide evidence!! It certainly seems to me that in the vastness of the universe there must be other human-like individuals. I would love to meet them. However, I think once they see how much war we wage and the cruelty we commit on each other, they won't want to meet us. Humankind doesn't make a good case for visits from "others." Thank you for a most interesting post. Love you, Mom
    Randy, Thank you for your thoughtful post. I am honored you found my work worthy of interest and mention. If helpful to know, many of us initially descend into the UFO topic under a number of incorrect assumptions. That's often why we were interested. That contributed a lot to my motivation to start writing my blog in 2010, the couple of books that ensued, and my current collaborations with Erica Lukes and company at Expanding Frontiers Research: Those who have journeyed through the gauntlet and had the courage to apply some fact-checking and introspection have things to say that should be heard. While the rampant amount of nonsense may be discouraging, it is the very critical thinking skills we use to deconstruct the deception that also liberate us. They allow us to understand there can be unreliable narrators AND phenomena worthy of deeper study. It doesn't have to be “either/or”, so fascination of the planet and universe need not be entirely lost on the dishonor of the unscrupulous. Recognizing the differences, for instance, between facts and unsupported statements allows us to explore our interests with more safety and confidence. The experienced and wise realize the importance of respecting high standards of evidence. Truth stands up to scrutiny, and it has been my experience that the most interesting revelations by far are found on the path you are choosing of rigorous honesty and careful investigation. Congratulations on your willingness to take a look. It's not for the timid. Please feel encouraged to reach out on social media or stop by our chat at our Expanding Frontiers shows on YouTube sometime. We always welcome more brave, thoughtful people with working knowledge of the UFO topic. Best regards, Jack Brewer
    What a great comment. You've given me a lot to think about. Thank you, Jack.
    Hi Randy - Mick West -who I admire directed me to your post. I was also terrified of abduction as a kid (and maybe a little older too) I think you are correct in saying that whole lot of the UFO stuff is bunk. I cringe when I watch videos of people in hypnosis sessions recounting stories of alien encounters- it's terribly unreliable and allows people create stories that are utter fantasy which they in turn believe. Most of these people are well meaning although others are utter charlatans knowingly lying to make a buck. The space has so many bull$h!t artists its difficult to sort the wheat from the chaff. Hoaxes are a daily occurrence on social media and I find it incredible how credulous some people are even when an event has been quite satisfactory explained. E.g. the recent military flares debacle or the bokeh effect created 'pyramid shaped UFOs' That being said, there are cases that make me pause and think that there is something to all of this. For example Ariel School in Ruha Zimbabwe, Westall School in Melbourne and the 2004 Nimitz encounters. Listening to the witnesses, the school kids in both schools, but particularly Salma Siddick (Ariel), Andrew Greenwood (Westall) Cmdr David Fravor and Lt Cmdr Alex Dietrich (Nimitz) makes me conclude that they encountered something pretty extraordinary. What that 'something' is I don't know and I would dearly love to get to the bottom of it!
    Padraig, Good to know I wasn't the only one terrified of alien abductions! I'm not familiar with a few of the cases you mentioned. I will do some research. Thanks for your comment.
    My experience was very different, but I have been unbelieving the ETH for decades. I suspect the essential qualities that started me down the path was the belief one should look at both sides in any controversy and developing the critical ethos I feel is at the heart of scientific progress. I've worked on a psychosocial perspective to the ufo myth since the 1980s and feel it is the best way to make any progress in the topic. The CIA probably has nothing to do with alien abduction experiences. The complexity of the total body of experience narratives is tied up in human creativity and nightmares, among other things. Government criminality is not enough.
    J'ajouterai la contagion du aux ufologues qui aiment agrémenter d'extraordinaire des cas dit OVNI. je pense (étant en France) au cas comme Valensole (décrit sur mon modeste blog "Ufo l'Savoir" mais aussi aux dernières révélations d'un Grusch. Cette contagion sur le cas du Zimbawe (les enfants contaminés par le manque de prudence lors du recueil des témoignages) mais aussi au cas d'école comme celui de Phoenix (en France le 05 novembre 1990). Merci donc de votre article, édifiant et lucide. Comme je le dis depuis des années, l'ufologie se raconte, les ufologues se la raconte et en ajoute et les faits s'étudient ! Ne jamais se laisser bercer par des dires sans la curiosité de savoir et la volonté de comprendre.
    @Martin: Regarding your comment about critically looking at both sides: Yes! I was stuck on one side of the UFO equation for a long time. @Patrice: I like your observation that ufology is told and then embellished. Thanks for mentioning your blog; I always enjoy finding more thoughtful blogs on the topic.
    Hey Randy, As a fuller introduction, find attached a bibliography of my writings which you should treat as a resource that can be word-searched to find where I may have looked at various topics in the mythology of the ufo subject.  I also will attach "All Abductions are Strange" which gathers together my case for treating alien abductions as a psychosocial phenomenon.  Do not feel obligated to read or assess them, they basically are maps to my thinking as it has developed over the years and can bring you up to speed on my perspective should you feel the curiosity.  I realize it may not be for everyone and you may need to ignore it to get on with your own journey through the jungle of this topic.  As I think Jim Moseley probably said, try to have fun, if aren't having fun you may be missing the point. all the best, marty martin s kottmeyer  On Saturday, August 26, 2023 at 12:46:49 PM EDT, Posthaven Comments wrote: -- Reply above this line to create a new comment --Randy left a new comment on How to Stop Believing in UFOs:@Martin: Regarding your comment about critically looking at both sides: Yes! I was stuck on one side of the UFO equation for a long time.@Patrice: I like your observation that ufology is told and then embellished. Thanks for mentioning your blog; I always enjoy finding more thoughtful blogs on the topic. View the post and reply » Unsubscribe from further comments on this post Change your Posthaven email settings
    Hi Martin, I think you replied to the Posthaven email, which created a new comment on my blog post, rather than emailing me directly. Thus, the attachments you mentioned aren't visible. I would be very interested in reading those documents. Please forward them to my randyblog@duck.com email address. (And anyone else who is getting notified of these comments is welcome to contact me at that email.) Thanks!
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